I don’t know why but it seems we have it conditioned within us from a very young age to have all of our shit together by the grand age of 27, because at 15, 27 must seem like a ripe old age.
I’m teetering on the edge of 30 now and I can say I don’t have my shit together. Yes I have two beautiful children, a roof over my head and a steady job and relationship. However, I have debt, I’m not a homeowner and I’m not married yet and I’m not as far up the career ladder as I want to be.
Don’t get me wrong, I count my blessings every day for what I have – a loving family, a safe space and food and a house. But it feels a long way off what I was expecting to have accomplished.
Am I at peace with it? Honestly – no. I hope I will be as I gain more experience in life.
As humans, we can’t help but compare ourselves to others. Her stomach is flatter than mine, oh my gosh look at her house, oh she’s married now and living her best life. This is where social media is a bitch. You gain insights into people’s lives – the smiles and laughter, the glitz and glamour. But it’s not real – it’s not achievable. We present ourselves as this idealistic version. We don’t show the flaws, the sorrows and downfalls. Which if you are feeling low can be detrimental to ones self of steam or mental health.
The fact is no life is the same. We all walk down different paths and adhere to different timelines. We face different challenges and battles. But your life matters! It is valid! It is is meaningful!
Please don’t compare yourself to standards you set in your head 10/15 years ago. Or against anyone else.
Every day is a new day! Life is a constant evolving state. So goalposts shift – remember that! Talk to your friends – or reach out to someone. They will feel the same.
You are not alone! We are in this crazy world together.
“No one is you and that is your superpower” Elyse Santilli
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